Confident in Your Own Skin, April 2018

Featured in Rochester Woman Online, April 2018 issue

We confidently earn advanced degrees, confidently move up the corporate ladder, confidently run businesses, confidently take care of others and confidently share our opinions. Yet, we’re not confident in our own skin. It’s wild to think that we’re so successful and capable in just about every area of our lives, except this one.

Confidence in your own skin is an individual feeling and it’s different for each of us. At the heart though, it’s being authentic and empowered in all areas of our lives, especially our self-image. It’s the difference between trying on 17 outfits because nothing feels good and getting dressed once and feeling like you can take on the world. It’s the difference between the loop of self-sabotaging thoughts and positive affirmations about how awesome you are. It’s the difference between feeling so exhausted you have cookies and ice cream for dinner and feeling energized to prepare and eat food that actually nourishes you. It’s the difference between self-criticism and self-love.

As a mindset and health coach, I’ve done a lot of work personally and professionally on feeling confident with self-image. I’m convinced that mindset and nutrition are the core factors in how confident we feel in our own skin. Much of this work is simple, not easy mind you, yet simple and the good news is small changes and consistent inspired actions will have a big positive impact.

Our mindset and especially our self-talk are either tools that free or tools that limit. Your inner monologue is probably deeply ingrained and you may not even notice its effect on you. It is your perception, though, that creates your reality and your thoughts have an incredibly strong impact on your life. When I first started to work on my mindset I was equal parts stunned and admittedly upset. Stunned with the realization that I had this much control over how I experienced my life. Upset because I was responsible and there wasn’t anyone to transfer blame to. (Transferring blame and maintaining the mindset that there wasn’t anything I could do to change my situation would have been the easy way out even though it didn’t feel good.) Once I got over the blame, my confidence in my own skin improved a little with just the acceptance that a new thought could change what I saw when I looked in the mirror.

We all know that the foods we eat have a dramatic impact on how we feel physically, however they also have a dramatic impact on how we feel emotionally and mentally. Often the foods and drinks we use to feel energized actually cause us to feel worse and keep us in a cycle of energy spikes and dips. It’s the dips that are the most detrimental to your self-image because when you feel crummy physically it’s easy for your mind to default to negativity. I used to depend on a sugary snack and cup of coffee at 3pm to get through the rest of my day. I would feel great for a little bit after that 3pm fuel and then I would feel awful. After that short burst of energy, my body crashed and I felt exhausted, defeated and cranky. 

I invite you to empower yourself and take two daily actions to reset your mindset and refuel your nutrition. Join me and start to feel confident in your own skin today!

1.     Create a new belief about yourself and develop a positive I Am statement.

Here are some of my favorites to get you started: I Am Awesome! I Am Strong! I Am Present! I Am Healthy! I Am Free! I Am Whole! I Am Happy! Pick a statement that you’d like to embody and repeat it to yourself throughout the day. Post your new belief on sticky notes everywhere, so you will see it often. Your mirrors, doors, refrigerator, steering wheel, phone case, wallet and computer screen all work well, even a reminder on your calendar is helpful. It doesn’t matter if your statement doesn’t feel true just yet, what matters is your intention to make it true and your commitment to repeating it hundreds of times throughout the day. (Yes, hundreds of times daily!) You’ll see even more amazing results if you repeat your I Am statement in front of a mirror.

2.     Drink more water.

This is one of the simplest and most powerful tools to feel better in your own skin. When we’re hydrated we can think more clearly, we feel more energized and we’re much more patient with ourselves and others. Aim for half your body weight in ounces each day. (For instance, if you weigh 200 pounds, then drink 100 ounces of water daily.) If you don’t care for the taste of water, add sliced fruit or vegetables like citrus or cucumbers. If it’s hard for you to remember to drink water throughout the day, consider a water tracking app or set a reminder on your phone each hour to have a glass of water. 

If your mind is already whirling with excuses like “this won’t work,” “this seems too simple to make a real difference,” “I’m not thirsty,” “I don’t have time” and so on, first acknowledge those distractions and then take back control. It can be easy and also effective, feeling confident in your own skin doesn’t have to arduous. Start small and test these two new actions, commit to repeating your new belief multiple times and drinking enough water each day for a week. Tune in and notice how you feel after 7 days.


Meg Burton Tudman helps women struggling with stress and self-sabotage to change their daily habits through customized mindset and nutrition coaching, so they can feel empowered, energized and confident in their own skin. Click here for your free Reset Your Mindset Toolkit with 7 quick reset strategies, plus a weekly checklist.